By Robert Megargel
Every job has positives and negatives. Every decision we make has a ripple effect. Living in a world driven by results and continual improvement can make it hard not to look back and wish we’d done something differently. But in order to have a better tomorrow, we must live in the present and move beyond the past.
Any job dealing with people can wear you down. It can become a grind and steal joy from your life if you’re not protective of your perspective. I’m an optimistic and motivational guy, but even I have recently found the need for a new view of myself and others. I was in a state of mind that was overly analytical, unnecessarily critical, and just negative. I didn’t show joy or much love to the people I was trying to lead, serve, and lift up.
I was carrying stress and anxiety from the past. I just kept making every day like the day before it and over time I lost my way. I lost my vision for the future and along with it my purpose. It took a bit of soul searching and prayer to get me out of the doom and gloom state of mind but I made it. I’ve been living with a new view and it’s making every day better than the last.
The main thing I’d like you to take away from this reading is that I caution you, me, and everyone from thinking that we’re the ultimate judge. Biblically speaking, Paul warned people of this trap. When we judge ourselves and others, we’re acting as if we know all. We act as if we understand all the variables in the past, present, and future. If we’re judging, we may not be helping the situation. We might actually be missing the best parts of life and with it the great opportunities to connect with others.
If any part of this speaks to your heart, I encourage you to consider a new view. Below are a few helpful steps that I’ve been practicing that are making a difference.
1. Free yourself from thinking that you are the ultimate judge. Don’t judge others or even yourself. Paul says God’s the JUDGE and cautions people against thinking we know best and that we’re higher than God.
2. Forgive yourself and others for mistakes. We’re human and life is a process not a destination. Failure is a part of the growth process. So forgive often.
3. Start your day with a new view of yourself and others! Lay down the mistakes, burdens, and battles from yesterday. When you see your best qualities, it’s much easier to be at your best! Leave the negativity in the past. Walk into the present and future with hope and purpose.
4. When you begin to judge yourself or others, just take a 30 second timeout to reflect, pray, relax, refocus, and REPEAT step 1.
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