When I stepped outside of the proverbial mental cubicle (of going through the motions) that I found myself in during my mid 20s, I began to see that I not only desired a more fruitful, meaningful life... but I also desired that very thing for so many people around me. Maybe you've found yourself in that frustrating position? Wanting to grab someone you care about so much by the shoulders and shake them out of the stupor you feel they're trapped in. What seems to be so difficult is communicating your vision to them in an empathetic and compassionate yet exhorting and challenging way.
The one thing you're not told when you decide to become a leader (and accept the responsibility to develop yourself and serve others) is how to handle the burning desire you will develop for wanting to see others change their lives by way of changing their thinking. It's a genuine desire to see the people you know begin to grow. It's like you've discovered this gift that you want to give away, but the people around you just won't accept it. And if you don't develop yourself, you will wrestle with one of the most common pitfalls of leadership: the continual effort to change everybody, to fix everyone's problems, to try and "save the day," so to speak.
As a leader, you will always see people as who they can become. And it is likely that you will always want more for someone else than what they want for themselves. But, instead of wearing yourself out--trying to be everything to everybody--you have to learn how to add value and keep moving. This doesn't mean you run off and leave everyone in the dust. It means you learn how to be intentional with your time, talent, treasure, and touch. Trust that the seeds you plant will be watered by someone else, and that God will take care of the increase. You're not the only person God will use to help someone else develop and grow.
If you want to be an effective leader, recognize this issue, and own it. Make the necessary adjustments in your approach with others so you can avoid the burnout that many people in your position experience. Additionally, practice humility by remembering that you didn't always know what you now know. There was a time when you were also blinded by the fog. Keep adding value using the influence you have and the platform you've been given, and focus on being the change you want others to see versus trying to change others into what you want them to be.
Love you guys. Let's grow.
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